I just wanted to give an update about our wedding plans.
So we REALLY wanted to get married at Kevin's parents home this year. However, the roof of the house sprang a leak on Christmas morning and it badly needs to be replaced, and thus will be in no condition to house a wedding, guests, food...and all the things associated with a wedding.
SO, instead, we're going to hold off for one more year on PART of it.
We are still getting married this year, on August 1 at MY parent's house, with just our immediate families because we'd already decided to get married this year and didn't want to push it back "just" another year. So, NEXT year, on August 7, we will be having the big party reception, with all our friends and extended family and whomever decides to drop by on the big day...We'll renew our vows, so there will be an actual ceremony too. The house will be in tip-top condition.

x-posted on facebook

my post to yesterday's promptaday, only with a little more detail.
the prompt: "Totally blast something you dislike."

-red sauce on my noodles, or with my breadsticks
-customers who talk on their phone when they're in my line
-tomatoes
-television

-When people try to make my wedding for me. I don't feel like a bridezilla. They tell me "But it's your wedding, you HAVE to wear the Cinderella dress and have a bazillion flowers and it's going to be the best day of your life! Don't you want to remember it forever?! Don't you want it to be perfect?!"
UM, please.
a) You're right. It's MY wedding. Glad we cleared that up.
b) I don't HAVE to wear anything. I will be choosing what I wear at my wedding. Ahem, a skirt and a top. It'll be nice, and SIMPLE, and what I want to wear.
c) There will be a bazillion flowers. Only I won't have to spend umpteen amounts $$ on them, because they'll already be there. Planted, in the ground, and not going anywhere even after the ceremony.
d) It WILL be the best day of my life. I WILL remember it forever, I just don't need a gigantic dress in order to remember it. Seriously, picture little me in a huge poofy dress? You wouldn't be able to see me!
e) I don't expect it to be absolutely perfect. To me, "perfect" isn't "natural." And the thing I most want at/in/for (I can add more prepositions if you like) my wedding is for it to be "natural."

Sorry for the rant. I'm not targeting anyone in particular who reads my LJ. Just listing what I've had from people at work. :)

Location: Kevin's parents' house. With JP.

Colors: I'm not going to have just *one* color or just *one pair* of colors. More like *whatever fits right* ...which could end up being all kinds of different colors. YAY!!

Flowers: I'll have a "crown" of daisies, and (if I can find one, or make one) a veil with daisies embroidered in it. I'll carry lillies in my bouquet. :)

Wedding Rings: Found them!!! Online!!! yay!!! inexpensive too double yay!!!

My dress: I hope to god they still have it at the little store in PJ, NY. I'll cry if they don't have it and my heart will be broken b/c it was *that* skirt and top that I fell in love with, and I doubt I'll find something similar. I'll also cry if they *do* have it...I'll be so happy I won't know what else to do...

Dress of Groom: probably the khakis and a nice shirt :) (Maybe you're getting the hint that this isn't a "formal" wedding....)

Dress of Bridal party and guests: Bridal party is going to be small anyways, but dress so you're comfortable. I'm not going to make an outrageous request that they're going to have to wear "this color or that color so it matches everything else." To do that would be making an unnecessary purchase of something that you're only going to wear probably once. So please, wear something that you already have. I'll be happy with it...keep it non formal but more casual..no jeans. :)
Guests' dress: Seeing as we haven't compiled the guest list yet, I'm going to say that the dress will be the same as the bridal party. Even after the list is compiled, the dress will likely *still* be the same as the bridal party.

Food: making our own. Seriously. If a bunch of people just make one thing, it'll be perfect. And everyone will be able to eat what they want. None of that "chicken or beef" nonsense...what if someone would rather have fish? Or no meat? What are they going to do, starve?? I don't think so.

Gift Registry: still TBA like last time.

Cake: oooh I'll probably ask Patty if she'd be willing to do it. :) I love her, she's like my mom (hey they were close friends waaay back...) and I'm sure she'd love to do it. If I just *ask* her lol...I'll do that like this week or something. :)

Music: hmm still a toss-up for the wedding song. Everything else...aaah yeah. Get back to me lol ;)

Pictures/Video: probably going to have my father do them. Like not the actual ceremony, but the poses. Maybe he knows someone who can do the ceremony b/c I sure don't. :) We'll probably put those little cameras around too so everyone can take pictures!! :)

Not that anyone who reads my LJ cares...but here are some tentative plans. I've tried searching around theknot.com, but I think that they're a little over-the-top for how I want my wedding to be.

Location: Kevin's parents' house - Perry, ME. The backyard is beautiful, and Rhoda has an awesome rock wall that I'd love to have the ceremony on. At first, I was going to try to plan for the ceremony on Indian Island, where Kevin's family has a house. The island is technically Canadian land, and after doing a little research, it may be an issue to have an American ceremony on Canadian grounds. So Kevin's parents backyard works for what I want.

Colours: still don't god damn know. First I wanted light blue. Then I thought about really dark blue. (Not necessarily Navy, but more along the lines of Royal blue) Now I'm sort of thinking about Lavender or lilac. I like red, though I think it's a little too intense for the outdoor weddding that I desire. Purple seems sort of too "girly" for men to wear at a wedding...though I do know how men are likening up to the idea of wearing pink these days. If Kevin wants to wear pink on his own time, that's fine...but I don't think I really want pink in my wedding. It's rather overrated. I don't know. I like all colours, really. Maybe I'll hand Jordan and Jesston paint brushes and they can decorate my wedding however the hell they want. I honestly don't know!!!!!

Flowers: I want to have either Daisies or Lillies. Maybe both. They don't really match with each other. My mother's favorite flower was Lilly. I'm not sure if that's what she had at her wedding. My favorite are Daisies. I really do like Lillies a lot though. GAH!!!

My dress: I don't really want a "dress." I would really like to have a skirt and a top. Though most of the white skirts that I find are like the beach cover-ups that are sort of see through. I still really like the top/skirt outfit that Renee and I found in PORT JEFFERSON, NY where we were in this hippie-style shop off of one of the streets there. It was such a beautiful outfit, I really wish I could have afforded to pay for it on the spot.

Dress of Groom: He can wear shorts, if he wants to. A tux would be HOT, but if you continue below, you will see that the Groom wearing a tux would not really be an appropriate contrast.

Dress of Bridal party and guests: Honestly, where whatever you are most comfortable to wear. Preferably no jeans and tee shirts, please, but slacks, shorts, or skirts and casual shirts would be fine.

Now, you can probably get the hint that this is not really going to be formal at all. Nice, not expensive, and definitely not tacky. I have this huge pet peeve with cheap-looking, tacky weddings. Yuck.

Food: Fuck, I don't know. I'm considering potluck at this point. But I have like a year and a half yet before it all happens, so this plan will likely change.

Gift Registry: TBA. Maybe Bed Bath & Beyond. Or Target. Or just be traditional and bring the gifts to the reception. I don't care if we receive gifts at all. As long as the people are there who mean the most to us, then that's the best gift they can bring. We'll love it just the same.

Cake: I'd love my mom to make it, if she were here. She made some fucking awesome cakes, not to mention they were beautiful. :P Other than that, maybe I could ask a dear friend who also happens to make fucking awesome cakes (and beautiful). (Just so happens that she and my mom took the same cake-decorating class...)

Wedding Rings: TBA as I have no clue. We both like white gold, I know that much.

Music: Most likely DJ. *unless I could hire Busted :P
Wedding song: maybe "Fast Car" by Tracy Chapman though it's not really a wedding song. I also really REALLY like "You Can Count On Me" by Default. At this point, TBA.

Pictures/Video: TBA. My father takes awesome pictures, but I doubt he'd be the one to do it for his own daughter's wedding....